How to make friends with your inner critic (Washington Post)

In a thoughtful Washington Post article, psychologist Dr. Lakeasha Sullivan explores a surprising idea: instead of battling your inner critic, try befriending it. That nagging inner voice—the one that calls you lazy, unworthy, or not good enough—actually evolved to keep you safe by anticipating danger. But when it becomes too loud or cruel, it can drain your confidence and emotional energy. Rather than silencing it, Sullivan suggests recognizing it as a part of you shaped by past experiences—and learning to engage with it mindfully.
By naming your inner critic, identifying its roots, and practicing self-compassion, you can shift its role from saboteur to guide. This approach doesn’t mean agreeing with everything it says, but understanding its intent and responding with balance. Over time, you can transform harsh self-talk into a healthier inner dialogue that supports growth instead of fear. Curious how to turn that critical voice into something constructive?
Read the full article to learn how a little kindness toward yourself can lead to big changes.
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